In fact, I may be a terrible parent compared to you. How would I ever know since I'm not you and I don't know your kids? In fact, while I'm doing my best to do right by my kids, I have a whole slew of my own issues that I'm hoping I don't dump on them in the process.
had a friend mention today mention that she was tired of all the "mompetition" (great word by the
way!) in today's parenting society. She is so right that this exists. So
many parents think their way of parenting is the only right way and
they aren't afraid to tell you so. They're also not afraid to tell you
if they think you're doing it wrong. It's sad, especially when it makes great people rethink the idea of becoming parents in the first place.
I thought about what she said
(which included mentioning seeing this mompetition in Facebook posts, blogs, etc...), and
I started to panic a little. I thought, gee, I sure hope none of my
friends or family feel this way about my comments or blog posts. I could
have asked her if I was a culprit of this mompetition, but I didn't.
Why? Well, I probably didn't really want to hear if I was since that had
never been my intention (I really should put on my big girl panties
though and take the criticism if that is the case. If she is
reading this, she knows who she is and I give her full permission to
scold me privately). Mainly, I decided that even if I have not made her
feel this way, I still needed to post something to let the rest of my
friends know that creating competition is never my intent with anything I
write, post, or even say in person!
I am so far from perfect as
a person or parent. I wouldn't choose some of the parenting choices
others make, but I respect them all. Those decisions are being made for
kids that are not my own, and it's not my job to decide what is best for them.
choices I make are what is best for my children, not necessarily yours.
I share because there are people out there that have asked me for
ideas. A number of my friends have asked about where I get some of my
activities and how we carry them out. My husband likes to follow my
blog during the week so he feels like he's there with the kids more.
I'm part of a peanut allergy support group where many members share
their journey and enjoy reading the journey of others. There are so many
reasons why I post the things I do, but trying to say I'm a better or
more knowledgeable parent is never one of those reasons. If you've ever
felt this way about anything I've said, my deepest apologies.
all that said though, I don't plan to stop sharing. So if my words at
all offend you or make you feel bad, by all means, please just stop
reading them as that is not their point. We are all doing the best we
can for our kids and that is what is important. I think you are all
amazing parents (or would be if you're not currently), and should keep doing what you are doing!